“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” -Nelson Mandela
Fear of the Future can create a feeling of danger or impending destiny. This can drive us to act in ways that is out of the normal behavior pattern. It can stimulate aggression, panic, exaggerated movements that are never normally attempted. Fear creates several body conditions, which include: – sickness, stiffness or numbness in the body and a drugging, paralytic kind of feeling.
Fear prevents us from being rationale.
Quite often, opportunities are missed, and situations are blown out of perspective, essentially because of the inner fear. It drives us to destruction fear consumes our thoughts and drives us to commit mistakes.
Almost every human being is worried about the future. What will happen (good or bad)? We ask fortune tellers, check horoscopes…etc all that produce a lot of anxiety.
As a result, here is a list of techniques and suggestions on how to manage this fear of dealing with the unknown.
- Can’t Forecast What May Happen: Remember that no one can predict the future. Learn to take it one day at a time. Even if the thing that you are afraid of does happen there are situations that you can’t predict. Remember that we may be 99 percent correct in foreseeing the future, but all it takes is for that 1 percent to make a world of difference.
- Learn To Relax and self visualise: Remember to take a deep breath and maybe take a walk, listen to some music, read the newspaper, watch TV, play on the computer or do an activity that will give you a fresh perspective on things. Imagine yourself doing a task you are afraid of in the future. This self-visualisation is a great way to reduce fear and stress. This will distract you from your current worries.
- Always remember your worst fears will rarely come true.I learned this one from my experience over the decades. And I’ve found it to be quite right. The truth is most of us worry ourselves with things that are most likely never going to happen. Did it happen to you that you were so scared from going to a meeting or an exam that it ended up to the best meeting you have done, and you scored best results in that exam!
- Meditate, and pray, often.Research shows that spirituality helps people deal with anxiety and fear. For people who haven’t tried it, taking deep breaths, with eyes closed, does amazing things for just calming your edginess.
- Always remember you have the fight in you. We’ve all felt overpowered. But courage doesn’t mean never feeling beaten, courage means that you do what you can, with what you have, regardless of how you might feel. And perhaps the most important thing to remember about courage is that no one else can give it to you, you have to give it to yourself. In order to face your fears about the future, you first have to start with believing in yourself that you can.
If ever you think you’ve created a controllable, predictable life for yourself, you can rest assured that’s an illusion. Nothing stays the same forever.
The uncertainty can keep you up at night, obsessing over ways to protect yourself from anything that might go wrong. Or it can motivate you to practice acceptance, live in the moment, and embrace the adventure of living.
What’s coming tomorrow might not be easy—or it might fulfil you in ways you didn’t know to imagine. What’s certain is that it will come and when it gets here, you’ll respond to it, learn from it, and move into another tomorrow full of endless possibilities.
Say to yourself: ‘Today I’m focusing on my possibilities, and not my fear’ , and suddenly you will feel a lot better.