“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”- George Bernard Shaw
We’ve all heard people saying how vital it is to “find yourself”. To set away the stress of every day’s life and know what you really want in life. However, it is easy said than done, once you are set to change, it’s not about finding yourself. It’s about creating yourself.
What exactly does “creating yourself” mean?
It means to become who you always dreamt to be. To find yourself it means you already exist. Now all you have to do is to search for it. And once you’ve found it, the journey is over. Unfortunately, it’s not that simple.
For many of us, “creating yourself” is a foreign language. All we know is how to habitually survive through life. We always hear people saying that they can’t wait for the weekend, or going on vacation, or even can’t wait until specific things happen to feel “alive” again.
Why is it we are always waiting for a special moment to finally seize it? What about right now? How can we enjoy this very moment that is occurring? How can we make this moment and day just as exciting as our next vacation? It all starts with our conscious.
Ever since I was young, I have always been fascinated with the mind. I was captivated with how we can consciously create our lives with our minds. However, I also had doubt in the back of my mind which would occasionally creep in and convince me that this was impossible. We are constantly fighting the voices in our heads that are telling us that we cannot achieve something.
When this happens, I have learned the three steps that I outline below to help eliminate those negative voices:
- Everyday visualise the end result
Visualisation techniques have been used by successful people to visualise their desired outcomes for ages. In fact, we all have this awesome power, but most of us have never been taught to use it effectively. Elite athletes use it. The super-rich use it. And peak performers in all fields now use it. That power is called visualisation.
Personally, I was constantly visualising a happy woman with amazing energy. A woman who is friendly and helps as many people as she came into contact with. By doing so, I started activating my creative subconscious which started generating creative ideas that helped me with my goal. Also, it activated the law of attraction and built my internal motivation which took the necessary actions to achieve my dream.
- Spending 10-15 minutes traveling into the space of my desire
Another powerful technique is to create a photograph or picture of yourself with your goal, as if it were already completed. If one of your goals is to Visit Rome, then find a picture or poster of the Colosseum and cut out a picture of yourself and place it into the picture.
For example, When Jack Canfield and Mark Hansen were writing the very first Chicken Soup for the Soul® book, they took a copy of the New York Times best seller list, scanned it into their computer, and using the same font as the newspaper, typed Chicken Soup for the Soul into the number one position in the “Paperback Advice, How-To and Miscellaneous” category. They printed several copies and hung them up around the office. Less than two years later, their book was the number one book in that category and stayed there for over a year. Now that’s a pretty solid example of a successful visualisation technique!
- Feeding your mind the right thoughts
I like to think of our minds as gardens. When we are constantly taking care of our minds with the right thoughts, we eliminate any weeds (negative thoughts) that try to grow in our gardens. When we feed our minds with the right things, we give our focus to positivity and our goals and dreams.
Think about this for a moment. When you encounter something negative, does your mind become sucked into that energy that it might throw off your whole mood and even affect your day? I know it has for me which is why I am so careful with where I am investing my mental energy.
Therefore, if negative energy comes your way, immediately ignore it so that you don’t give it the attention it wants to possibly grow into a bigger issue. The next time a negative thought tries to enter your conscious, ask yourself “Is this really worth my mental energy?” If not, dismiss it, and immediately replace it with a positive thought that resonates with your dreams and goals.
In summary, your future is a work in progress. Waiting for you to create it. It’s time to stop wanting to feel safe as it is an illusion anyway, live where you fear to and create yourself under your terms and according to your vision.