“Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” – William Shakespeare
Fear of self-doubt is a universal human emotion, experienced by some of the world’s most successful people. We fear change, because we are afraid of the unknown. We are creatures of habit, good and bad. We are afraid if we try something new, it may not work out and be worse than what we have now.
Fear and insecurity make us believe, that the danger of remaining in your current situation, is much less than the risk linked with doing something new.
While it’s true that self-doubt can be toxic, what’s more problematic is the fact that we never learn to deal with this normal, expected emotion in healthy ways.
So how can you overcome those times of self-doubt, so that you can move forward once again?
- Say stop.
First, don’t let your inner doubts grow, be quick and stop it. Talk to your subconscious mind and say something like: No, we are not going down that road again.
By doing that you can interrupt the thought pattern and stop that inner self-doubter from controlling you.
- Look to the past and awash yourself in the memories.
Be real with yourself and ask yourself:
How many times when I feared something, it came out to be positive and unexpectedly great for me?
The answer is – very often.
Self-doubts are most often just monsters in your head, that your mind may use to keep you from making changes and to keep you within the comfort zone.
- Stop comparing yourself to others.
If you compare yourself to other people to their success stories on social media, then your self-doubt can quickly amount.
A better way to go about things is to compare yourself to yourself. To see how far you have come. To see what you’ve overcome.
And to see how you’ve kept going, succeeded and grown as a human being.
- See a setback as a lesson.
When you experience an obstruction then you might see it as if it is something will be simply the new normal. This way of seeing things can trap you in thinking there is no point of continuing or taking action.
- Remember: When you live your life fully, then setbacks happen. Sometimes things go well and sometimes they don’t.
- Ask yourself: what is one thing I can learn from this setback? Use the mistake or failure to your advantage and to move forward once again in smarter way.
- Celebrate that small step and win.
When you’ve taken one small step forward – for example got your first client or set up your new website – and you’re done with it then you have a win. It may be a small one, but it’s still a win. So celebrate it.
This will boost your motivation and make taking action feel more exciting and fun. Also, it will push self-doubts aside, so that you can keep moving and get more small and bigger wins.
Remember, every action no matter how small or big makes you closer to your goal and build your confidence.
People who are living the life they want, didn’t allow self-doubt to get in the way. They took action.
Now it’s your turn.