Why CAN’T I Stick to MY Goals?

Without goals, and plans to reach them, you are like a ship that has set sail with no destination.” — Fitzhugh Dodson

Achieving our goals is rarely easy. It’s why knowing how to stay motivated is so incredibly important when it comes to achieving your goals and getting what we want in the long term. And in a world with more distractions than ever before — from Facebook to Instagram to constant texting — it can be all the harder to stay focussed and not just give in to what’s easier in the moment.

Statistics are showing that more than 50% of world’s population make so many New Year’s resolutions, but at the January or February itself, those resolutions are very likely to become just a wishful thinking!

As a coach, I find many people struggle in setting goals or even knowing what they really want, and if they do know what they want they seem to lose motivation quickly. So my job is to help them set the long term and short term goals, help them create an actionable plan how to achieve them, help them to stay motivated and find creative ideas and solutions to overcome the obstacles on the journey of achieving their goals.

One of the main challenges in staying motivated is in being certain that these goals are what we really want. Occasionally we set goals based on what we think we ‘should’ do. Or we base them on what other people tell us to do. Something like “don’t you think you have put on weight and it’s time to lose it?” well according to whom I am fat? Who dictates what the exact perfect weight is? Maybe those few extra Kilograms suit my figure. So make sure you’re going after something that you want and that makes you happy — it can make all the difference.

Secondly, it’s important to visualise the end result and what it will feel like when you’ve achieved your end goal. This means visualising your dream home, the feeling of achieving the job you always wanted, your awaited soulmate, the absolute excitement — this is what will fuel you on days when you don’t feel like working.

Thirdly, it is very essential to break your goals down into smaller, more task-oriented goals — and set target deadline for those tasks. For example; if your goal is “build my dream house,” start by saying, “First I’m going to find the land, then check for long term loan, then engineers, then the contractors,” etc. This method can make even the biggest task feel more manageable.

But when things feel overwhelming, just take a few moments to sit back and remind yourself why you chose those goals and path in the first place. Was it to help people? Was it because you knew your end goal would lead to long term satisfaction, even if it was short term work? This can always help you find clarity in the worst moments.

And finally, the best way to stay motivated and to experience more joy in achieving your goals is to focus on your journey. Instead of focusing primarily on loosing X amount of weight, let your focus be living a healthier lifestyle. Instead of focusing on having X number of clients, you can primarily focus on giving more value into your work. Being more present in the now and enjoying the process itself brings us in the state of flow and when we are experiencing flow like experiences we feel happier.

You see successful people do not become successful because they never failed, but because when they did, they had the courage to collect the pieces of their broken pride, push through the hurdles and keep on going.

Live your best life by deciding what you want, writing down those desires as goals, creating a plan for achieving them, and refusing to stop until you reach your intended destination.

Remember — you can do it!

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