“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
I have always loved this quote by Gandhi.
I used to have it hanging on my board at home. When I moved, I took it down and honestly forgot about it. Last year, I woke up one day thinking about this quote and how essential it was to really take these words to heart. It simply changed my life….
Your beliefs become your thoughts…
How many of your beliefs are actually true? Have you ever stopped long enough to recognise your beliefs?
I used to have beliefs that were actually keeping me stuck. Can you imagine believing…that you’re not good enough, that no one could possibly love you for being yourself or that you didn’t deserve to make a substantial amount of money (at least not without a struggle).
Hmmm…those beliefs sucked. And those beliefs were on the top of my mind…all day long.
Your thoughts become your words…
I wish I could say this wasn’t true but your words certainly derive from your thoughts. If you feel less than, it’s no surprise that negative statements come pouring out of your mouth.
“I can’t succeed.”
“No one will ever want me because I am too demanding.”
I’m guessing you’ve said something similar, yes? Do you think it’s time to shift your thoughts?
Your words become your actions…
Or become your inactions in some cases. When you’re degrading yourself, do you think you take positive actions?
I know I didn’t.
What would happen if you shifted your words from negative ones to positive ones? What if you kicked your old bad beliefs to the curb and created new ones? Do you think your actions would change? You bet they would.
Your actions become your habits…
What you do consistently becomes second nature. Be aware of your actions. Are they serving you? If the answer is no, it’s time to change them.
Your habits become your values…
Are your beliefs, thoughts, actions and habits in alignment with your true values? Do you even know what you value? I’ve talked to far too many women who have no idea what they value anymore. Don’t you think it’s time you sat down and assessed what’s important to you?
Your values become your destiny…
If you’re not in alignment with your values, you’re going to find yourself in a vicious cycle of always getting what you don’t want. Is that what you envisioned for your life?
I didn’t think so.
Until we understand the mind, it will be difficult, if not impossible, to master it. By knowing how the mind works, you can begin to use the laws to transform and reshape your consciousness, beliefs and thoughts in whatever direction you desire.
You CAN change your limited beliefs. And when you change your beliefs, your thoughts will change which will cause your actions to change. Different actions lead to different results.
In taking regular action, I changed a long-held belief about myself. I thought about how many people I could help if I just kept taking action and moving forward (my big “why”). Here are some steps i used to change my limited beliefs which resulted in being a happier person that people love to be around with:
- Choose the area of your life where you want to make a change. What area would make the biggest impact on your life?
- Write down all of your beliefs in that area. Think back to your childhood and what you picked up as a child from your parents, friends, teachers and others who had an impact in your formative years. What did you observe and hear repeatedly?
- Decide what core belief you want to change. Only choose one. Of all the beliefs you wrote down in step 2, which one would have the biggest impact on your life if you changed it to something more positive?
- Write down why it’s so important for you to change this belief. Until your reason to change is stronger than your reason to stay the same, it’s fruitless to fool yourself into thinking you can change such strongly held beliefs. How has it damaged you in the past and what’s possible in your future if you make the change? Without a “why” that matters deeply to you, any change is short-lived.
- Argue with this belief. Pretend that a friend holds this belief and you can’t believe they could be so stupid as to believe this. For example (generalizing, proposing should be a man’s job, don’t show your emotions, don’t fall in love with someone from a different religion…) Show all the evidence to the contrary. How damaging this belief has been. Whenever they defend their belief, come up with more reasons why it’s false.
- Create a new, positive, more empowering belief. It will probably be the opposite of the belief you’re trying to change.
- Visualise your life in detail when you’ve changed your old belief into the new one. What’s now possible for you? Now that you’ve taken down the old perceived walls, where will you go and what do you see yourself doing? How do you feel now that you’re living the life you previously thought impossible?
- Every day, as you wake up, as you go to sleep and as often during the day as you can, repeat your new belief (preferably out loud) and feel the feelings you experienced in step 7. Feeling those new feelings on a regular basis is one of the most important aspects of this change process.
- Every day, at the end of the day, write down one to three things, large or small, that you will do the following day to disprove the old belief and reinforce the new belief and move you closer to the life you envisioned in step 7.
- The next day, do what you wrote down the night before as soon as you can. Action is incredibly powerful. Ideas, thoughts and beliefs can swim around in your head creating havoc or heaven. Nothing will reinforce what you’re capable of more powerfully than taking action.
What belief has been holding you back? Why is it important for you to change it? What’s possible for you when you do?
Change your limited beliefs. And change your life.